Jade’s story

Jade is a young mum with a creative streak and an interest in sports. In December 2022 she graduated from Iosis’s Merivale Whānau Development Centre. She reflects on what life was like before Merivale and how she developed personally and as a parent during her nine-month stay there.

It was Oranga Tamariki who recommended Merivale’s residential parenting programme to Jade. At the time she was striving to maintain custody of her infant daughter and the new baby she was expecting.

“My life was a bit loose. I felt like I could easily walk over the edge. I had triggers that were around me because I was pretty vulnerable at the time,” says Jade.

“Coming from professionals, I could trust what they said. I needed to learn a bit more about myself and how I could take care of my child. I wanted to get my children and be that safe haven for them,” she says.

At Merivale, Jade attended parenting and non-violent communication classes and received counselling. She also learnt about the importance of structure for children’s development and sense of security.

“It’s given me more care in the way I operate my daily relationship with my child. I feel that I can put her first and make her feel important because these structures help me. She’s really attached to me and enjoys my company,” Jade says.

“I am glad that Merivale took me in because now I can say I am sober and drama-free! I am grateful to have this experience because I was in desperate need of a hand to get my life on track. It didn’t look like the prettiest life.”

Jade has some encouraging words of advice for other mums considering Merivale’s help.

“The staff are supportive and caring. They are there for you as much as they are for your child. Merivale wants the best for you mums. They’ll do anything to help you when you need something. All you have got to do is ask.”

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